Woof Laddie!

We survived our excursion to Buffalo. Buddies II was fun. Unbeknownst to us the theme was Kilts. More of the guys participated in the theme than the guys in Rochester. Like our theme nights some guys did it well and some… well… didn't. What surprised me was that some of the ones who did it well were hot! The fresh meat effect was definitely in place. Among the four of us two were asked to go on a date, one got a phone number and the other an email. Oddly enough, the cutest one of us ended up with the email. I think it was his own fault though for being to darned shy. I understand that some people are naturally shy, but gay guys take it to the extreme. If you're interested in someone let them know. What's the worst that's going to happen? Either they ignore you or say something rude. In which case you'll know that they weren't worth bothering with anyway. On the other hand they might like you too but are shy or oblivious, which I am sometimes, when it comes to flirting.

We didn't prove many of the Murphy's Gay Laws but I did realize a couple things. Gay men don't plan ~If they do plan, the plans will change multiple times before execution ~When the plans change at least one friend will panic and not be able to figure out how to achieve the original goal. The other thing is that I'm right more than I think I am and I'm pretty good at figuring out situations and motives. Usually if someone makes it seem I'm off base it's because they're uncomfortable with something they're doing. I kinda already knew that but every once in a while I need to be reminded. I know sometimes I sound like I think I'm smarter than I think I am. (Translation- I may sound full of myself at times but I don't really think like that.)

The plan was for Bert, Peter and I to head up early, get dinner and then go out. Alan, who had to work late, would meet us out. Peter and Alan are Buffalo regulars, they always stay over and drive back the next day. I planned to come directly home and Bert decided to come with me. Alan and I would each have a car, so there was no problem or so we thought. Peter assumed we were all staying, once he realized we weren't he was all upset. He Alan mentioned going to Toronto from Buffalo and Peter would have no ride home. I suggested that he simply come back with us. He felt that if he did that we would be leaving Alan in the lurch. I pointed out that Alan was more than capable of taking care of his own accommodations. It seemed odd to me that Peter felt there was no way to make it work. Buffalo's not that far and this wasn't that big of a change, there were plenty of options. During our very circular discussion, Peter's roommate Steve and his boyfriend Rick came home. Steve, who works with Alan, said it would be ok to call Alan at work if we couldn't figure it out. Peter talked to Alan and he was fine with it. Suddenly Peter wasn't going. Figuring he was sulking, I gently reminded him that it was silly to stay home and miss out when nothing had really changed. Ten minutes later he came out with the fact that he didn't have any cash. He planned on charging the room and us giving him cash. The solution was simple he could just charge dinner and we would pay him for that. Tada! Steve and Rick were going out to eat so we decided to eat here in Rochester and all go together.

Two things I firmly believe are honesty is the best policy and everything happens for a reason. It's not always comfortable to be totally honest but it's so much easier. If Peter had told us what he was worried about in the beginning we could've skipped the whole conversation. Of course then we would've missed Steve and Rick. Dinner turned out to be one of the highlights of the night, so I guess it had to happen that way. At any rate, we danced, we laughed and we met some new people. Bert's got a date, Peter's got a phone number and Alan got an email. Me? I'm all set for now, I'm just waiting for my Bear in shining armor*wink*…